Are You Feeling Guilty Over Something?
Just out of curiosity, are you feeling guilty about something right now, if so, what is it?
You don’t have to confess your sins in the comment section.1 I’m not referring to the guilt we might feel when we do something morally wrong, but just in every day life.
Here’s what I’m feeling guilty about right now:
- Spending too much time on the computer
- Not putting away the laundry and cleaning the fish tank
- Not doing a favor for someone when they asked
Bloggers. Do you feel guilty when you have not posted in days or you haven’t replied to your comments right away?
If you weren’t feeling guilty before you read this, are you feeling guilty now?
Parents. Do you feel guilty when you take “me” time instead of spending it with your kid(s). Do you feel guilty when you have to go to work or you miss the school play?
Spouses. Do you feel guilty if you spend more time with your online friends than you do with your spouse or does guilt make you feel responsible for their happiness?
You. Do you feel guilty that you’re not working on your big project or a hobby?
Guilt is everywhere, but why do we feel it and what does it really accomplish? On her website over at SelfCreation.com, Jennifer listed four reasons on why she felt guilt:
- To get herself to behave differently
- She thought good people were supposed to feel guilty
- To show others she was a good person
She said her most popular reason for guilt was to try to get herself to do something she thought she “should” be doing, or stop herself from doing something she didn’t think she “should” be doing.”
A lot of times we carry around imagined guilt, it’s only in our mind and serves no real purpose. Even now, I’m feeling guilty about this long post, but I want to share a personal experience before I go.
My daughter is not home this week and I probably won’t see her again until Friday and then she leaves for Maryland on Sunday. So I’m feeling guilty because we’re not together.
Yesterday I went out with some girlfriends and I got home earlier than I thought, so I said I would drive out to see my kid, read with her and get a hug, that I probably needed.
Well when I got to where she was, you would’ve thought I busted up her party. I didn’t get the reception I thought I deserved, it wasn’t a short drive either. 2 It was then that I stopped feeling guilty about us being apart, obviously, she’s fine with it, why wasn’t I? My guilt didn’t make her any happier, it was self-serving, to make me feel better.
I gave her a kiss, said good night and left my guilt behind. I feel less stress and guilt now. She called me this morning and said, “Hi Mom.” I said, “Who is this?” She didn’t get the joke, she answered me.3
Hey, the truth is not the only thing that will set you free! Learn to let go.
Letting Go
To let go doesn’t mean to stop caring,
it means I can’t do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off,
it’s the realization that I can’t control another.
To let go is not to enable,
but to allow learning from natural consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness,
which means the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try to change or blame another,
I can only change myself.
To let go is not to care for,
but to care about.
To let go is not to fix,
but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to effect their own outcomes.
To let go is not to be protective,
but to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to deny,
but to accept.
To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue,
but to search out my own shortcomings and to correct them.
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes.
To let go is not to criticize and regulate anyone,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To let go is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future.
To let go is to fear less and love more.
From “The Grace Awakening” by Chuck Swindoll
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My name is Valerie aka Natural and I will be writing about whatever is on my mind. I love teaching, dialogue, sharing and making people laugh. I never know what I'll share here but this is me, Thinking Out Loud.
Hi Natural,
I feel guilty if I don’t get to read all of the posts that are in my reader. I don’t want those in my community to think I’m neglecting them, so I keep reading until I’m exhausted. I’m trying to change that by pacing myself and if I miss someone one day, I make sure I visit them the next. Me and lack of sleep are NOT a good combination.
Some days I feel guilty for spending too much time blogging, but on the other hand, because I enjoy it so much, the guilt doesn’t last.
I quit feeling guilty about house work. I figured out it waits for me.
By the way, I LOVE the poem. I’m going to make a copy of it and hang it in my office. Great find!
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[This might seem a bit off but I couldn't get my thoughts completely in order...hey, it's late...]
“Learn to let go.” How true that phrase is! You know we do a VERY good job of remembering the mistakes we’ve made and all the feelings of guilt that we hold over them. We’re our own harshest critic and we judge ourselves time and time again. If we can recognize that we don’t need to punish ourselves time and time again for our mistakes and let go, then life can begin. Because until that point and as long as we continue to feel guilty, we’re still living in the past and not embracing the present.
PS. Like Barbara, I definitely feel guilty when I don’t respond to comments right away. The funny thing is, I usually respond to comments within a few hours…
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I experience guilt on a regular basis for all four reasons you mentioned. My main guilt trip is that I don’t do enough for my brother who has been bed ridden with MS for the last six years, has a feeding tube now, a catheter, can’t really swallow and has been at home receiving hospice care since November 2007.
My therapist has said guilt is actually anger that the person (me, in the case) feels is not safe to express as anger. Instead it is manifested in guilt. I feel guilty that he is so sick and I am healthy. I feel guilty that I don’t do enough for him because I know he would do as much or more for *me* if the positions were reversed.
So to answer your question: yes, I feel guilt most of my waking days.
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I mostly feel guilty that I don’t see my Mum more often and that most of her care and assistance is left to my brother and my step-sister in law and their families. I live two hours away, but it’s not a drive I can do at all comfortably for various reasons. Of course, that doesn’t stop me feeling bad that I don’t do it more often.
I’m actually feeling guilty enough to consider moving closer to her, though that will cause a lot of friction between OH and I, because he really, really doesn’t want to do that. So then, of course, I’d feel guilty about laying that on him.
I don’t believe guilt is very often suppressed anger (I’m willing to believe depression is suppressed anger, but not guilt), I think it’s suppressed frustration and a feeling of helplessness and inadequacy. I believe that guilt is a natural mechanism to encourage us to live up to our own personal standards of ethics and a useful reminder when we’re falling short. But there is also misplaced guilt, when society seems to be pressing us to do something we simply can’t fit into our lives, or don’t have the motivation to do, and that can lead to a lot of stress.
We need to recognise when we should let go - like you with your kid - and when we should let guilt prod us. Me? I haven’t decided yet which is the right option regarding my Mum. So I continue to feel guilty…
Hi Natural - I find guilt comes in waves - guilt about little day to day things, that is. I suppose it’s at times I’m not feeling very confident I’ll start doubting my choices - such as thinking I should be doing this or that thing that I’m not doing. I’ve been feeling like that a bit lately - it’s the weather, you know (it’s so cold here all the time).
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I feel guilty when I don’t post and visit all my regulars..letting go..Hmmm
I used to feel guilty because I spent my life on the road and never saw my daughter much..most contact was by phone (when my ex let me talk to her)..so when I cam off the road I tried to spend as much time with her as possible. At which time I found out that she was uncomfortable with me at the mall when her friends were around even more when I acted goofy..:))) hated it when I just dropped in when she was doing something ..then one day she said “hey Dad I’m moving to New Zealand..I love you”.. I stopped feeling guilty and now just harrass here by phone and e mail…:)))))))))
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What a great post!
There have been times when I feel guilty, times when I know I’ve spent way too much time on the computer (this blogging hobby I’ve picked up takes way too much time) and then don’t get housework done (really it’s an excuse because I just plain hate to do housework - although I love the results when I do), there are times when I spend too much money on things I want US to have, rarely does my spending only get something for me. I stopped letting my kids make me feel guilty about 12 years ago, they are kids, they were my main objective for 20 years and it was them having a hard time letting go, I was successful :):)
I feel guilty that I spend more money than I need to. I like buying new things when instead I should be saving it for something “bigger”. I don’t overspend… I just buy things that I really don’t “need”.
And yeah, I feel guilty when I don’t post for a few days or when i don’t respond to comments quickly.
Of course I feel guilty! I’m a woman, AND a mom. I think both groups tend to feel guilty often.
It is a major personal goal of mine to let go of guilt. Thank you for this post - I really enjoyed reading it, and I love the poem.
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This post was the bomb diggity! Makes we want to come up with a section on my blog titled “best post of the day”. We all have issues with guilt and we all handle those issues in different ways. I have a lot of things that immediately flood in when I attempt to ponder on what I’m feeling guilty about. Some small…some paramount but guilty as charged.
The key is letting go…
Roschelle
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I attempt to be the best I can on a daily basis. There is little place for guilt when you go through life with the impression you’ve done your best.
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Not cleaning the fish tank …perhaps explains the fish exodus incident? Oh sorry, my guilt! *grin*
I have tried to give up guilt. Complete waste of time in my book. Mind you, could explain why I am in the lack of routine predicament I’m in..as per today’s post. I still get twinges of Mom Guilt, but try to quickly let that go! Psh…they should feel guilty for not getting ahold of their very own mother until late on Mother’s Day!!! *smile*
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I feel guilty because I haven’t shaved in days. I’m starting to look like a mountain man.
But I gotta admit… Sometimes a little guilt feels so good!
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Like Jennifer, my most frequent reason for guilt is for things I should quit but I don’t and for things I don’t do that I should.
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I feel guilty when I take any Me time. I can’t help it. I’m better than I used to be, but still have a ways to go. Good advice. Great poem. Thank you.
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Hi Natural: I feel guilty when I haven’t visited my brother and my sister for a while. I’m the oldest so I guess I sort of feel that I have to keep an eye on them. I know it doesn’t make much sense since they’re both bright, competent adults, but that ’s just the way it is.
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BARBARA, I understand your feelings and wanting to be there for bloggers the way they have been there for you. A few blogs I read have slipped through the crack, I haven’t forgotten about them, everybody is just next, I’m coming.
What has helped me put things in perspective, a little, is that I think of a blog as an invitation into someone’s home. Each blog post is a meal, I can’t come to each meal. I might miss a few meals, maybe I can only make lunch, I might show up late for dinner or might have to make the next one. We don’t sit down at the table and stuff our faces with everything we can consume in a short amount of time, so we don’t have to feel guilty when we sit down at the computer and can’t “eat” everything we see. We’ll get sick: guilt, lack of sleep, feelings of being overwhelmed. We might have to snack. We might need to push back from the table and is this a reply to your comment or a blog post….I’m gone.
RIBEEZIE, hey I wrote this post when I was a little off, so you’ve come to the right place.
It’s true, but letting go needs to be learned and you have to understand why you are letting go. It does help.
CARDIOGIRL, I remember reading about your brother. I’m sure you are there for him when he really needs you. We have to stop beating ourselves up because we can’t do and be everything and everywhere. I know it’s hard not to feel guilty, I’m sure the feeling will cross my path again, but next time, I’ll be asking it a few questions like: why are you here. Be well.
JAY, is your mum sick or elderly, I don’t remember reading about your mum on your blog. Are you able to at least give her a call? I like your definition and yes, some guilt is good, deserved, it can be a motivator, but with the little things in life, it’s unnecessary. We wear it like clothing. I read something that said we are always trying to be “too good” at something. Impossible.
ROBIN, perhaps it does come in waves, but we don’t have to ride the small ones. Change the way we think, redefine guilt to legitimate actions.
ROBERT BOURNE, I don’t feel guilty about not posting, sometimes the tank is really empty, but I do feel guilt when I haven’t visited my regulars, especially if they have been here supporting. We have a lot to learn from kids, they really can be wonderful teachers, they know all about letting go, sometimes they push. Well not mine, she’s not that crazy.
MAMAFLO, thanks. Oh the computer is one of my weaknesses. Blogging does take up a lot of time, it’s not a complaint either, we all love it, but we all have lives to maintain. At least you know why stuff doesn’t get done, some people don’t. I won’t be feeling that separation anxiety guilt anymore, she’s just fine and I will be too.
MONIQUE, did you buy some more shoes?
At times we all may spend a little more than we need to, but some guilt, IMHO, is fine, especially if it gets us back on track toward a goal.
VERED, tell me about it. I’m going to work on more areas in my life as well. Some of the feelings will move me to correct a behavior, other feelings of guilt be redefined or questioned.
ROSCHELLE, thanks so much, glad you enjoyed it. That’s a great idea, best post of the day or even week. Letting go is easier said than done, of course, we have to understand what that means, I think that poem sums it up nicely.
URBANE LION, your reputation proceeds you, welcome. Men seem to be able to shut the guilt gene down or off. I think you make a valid point, when we do our best, we need to believe it, if it’s true and add no guilt to it.
URBAN PANTHER, if I don’t clean that fish tank, I don’t even want to look at it. I just haven’t been in the mood to clean it. This weekend for sure. Most guilt is a waste of time, I’m either going to do what I set out to do or don’t feel guilty about not doing it. We can only do so much.
BAMBOO FOREST, what’s wrong with mountain men?
If guilt feels good, then it’s called a pleasure. lol
BRENDA, mine too, but I’m going to try hard to fix that.
WRITER DAD, sometimes when I’m at this computer, I feel I should be doing things with my kid, but I’m deserving of some me time, and what good is an unhappy or cranky parent to any kid or family. We’re not just parents, we might need to prioritize, we’re people too.
MARELISA, it seems we all carry some guilt….I’m always asking why. I’m the youngest, so I don’t have the ‘responsibilities’ of an older sibling. Maybe you and your siblings can take turns visiting each other.
“Bloggers. Do you feel guilty when you have not posted in days or you haven’t replied to your comments right away?
YES YES YES and even more when I dont have time to visit everyone I love to read
Parents. Do you feel guilty when you take “me” time instead of spending it with your kid(s). Do you feel guilty when you have to go to work or you miss the school play?
Um Yeah. Like ALL THE TIME
and I am currently feeling guilty for spending way too much time working on my new video when I should be using that time to work on my book
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I feel guilty when I’m short on time and find myself scanning through posts. In the beginning I read every word. And, I feel guilty when I can’t get to all my favourite blogs, or when I visit a familiar blog and just don’t feel like commenting on their latest post (even though I love their blog).
Ok, can we talk about something else now? I’m feeling guilty about feeling guilty
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I don’t guilt myself over things, really. I find it’s mostly a waste of time & energy. I don’t engage in behaviors that would truly MERIT some good old fashioned guilt (like cheating on a b/f or stealing from a store or something like that,) so it’s kind of a non-issue for me.
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Valerie, my Mum is 88 years old and disabled. She couldn’t continue to live independently without help. I do phone her, but I feel guilty that I don’t do that more often, too…
Hi Natural,
Guilt is not a healthy feeling. Guilt, like fear, anxiety, worries and the likes can cause sicknesses and other emotional imbalances in our body. True and pure love casts out guilt and fear. If we do everything to please God and give glory to His name, we will never feel guilty of anything. We will not feel guilt but burdens put in our hearts by the Holy Spirit, prompting us to do God’s will. It is no wonder that so many people are suffering from so many exotic and unheard of diseases, because they do not have the perfect peace and joy in their hearts. Thanks for the interesting post. God bless.
DAVINA, it happens, we can’t be present to comment on every post or read every blog, we do what we can and accept it as our best for that day. we over extend ourselves.
LANA, it can be a waste of time and energy, especially over little things. If it’s guilt over not doing something then: Just do it.
JAY, I guess when it comes to our parents and maybe even kids nothing we do ever seems like enough and we do beat ourselves up for it. If we’re doing what our circumstances allow, we should accept that.
MEL AVILA ALARILLA, I have to agree with you here: If we do everything to please God and give glory to His name, we will never feel guilty of anything. Some of our issues or these newly discovered diseases are self-inflicted problems we bring upon ourselves because of the choices we make. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your comment.
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What an interesting post. Guilt has always been a part of my daily life but I am learning to let go..
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Guilt is a great motivator on the right day . I can walk right by guilty projects pretty easily these days and make up great reasons why I couldn’t do them ..ha ha
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Letting go…wonderful words, great post.
Thanks.
peace,
mike
livelife365
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Natural
This is a great post. I have been very “good at” guilt since I was a kid and becoming a mother has only made it worse. Rationally I see that it’s a pointless and destructive emotion, but that doesn’t always make it easier to navigate. Guilt doesn’t help others, and it makes you feel bed so it’s actually a disservice to our loved ones because when we’re not happy we usually are harder to live with.
I am much more aware now of when I am feeling guilty and can look at it and decide whether there is something valid there to fix, or whether it’s just me getting confused about expectations and boundaries. I used to feel guilty if I didn’t take my son to see his grandfather at least once a week, then one day I realised my dad had not been to my house in months, even though I live a 2 minute drive or a 7 minute cycle away!
My dad cycles to the shops past my house, but still doesn’t call in. This led me to feel angry and resentful, which was horrible too. Eventually I decided to only go visit when I wanted to and it was up to him if he came to see us more. The anger and guilt disappeared quite quickly, and now I actually enjoy his company more when I do see him.
I think we should spend more time living from a sense of joy and less time focusing on obligations we think others expect of us. The more centred and joyous we feel, the more love we have to give, and I think that benefits the people in our lives more than any empty sense of guilt over what we ’should’ be doing.
Kelly
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Hi Natural - I actually had a happy mood before I started reading the article. It quickly was replaced with guilt after reading the article, and it got worse when I was reading the comments.
One of the rules I try to live by is to only worry about things I can control. That helps me to remove unnecessary guilt. I’m feeling better already - thanks for the thought provoking post.
What a great post. I do feel guilty, as a blogger, that I don’t “DO” more: post more often, comment, read, vote up my favorites, drop EntreCards, click on Blog Catalog, etc, etc. Then I remind myself this is supposed to be fun. That usually works.
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i feel so guilty if i didn’t post anything within 2 days to my blog.
but heck, i feel guilty too if i didn’t do other home task.
haha
Smadar, what’s interesting is the stuff we feel guilt over. I was quite interested in what the responses would be, most are things we can control. So instead of feeling guilty over not cleaning, just do it. When it pertains to other people, there’s only so much we can control about their behavior, so why feel guilty. Your work on your blog is awesome!!
Sandy, it can be a motivator. Well we never run out of excuses
Mike Foster, thanks for stopping by. I recognize your name, been by your blog a few times. Will stop again.
Kelly, It’s not easy, it would almost seem that guilt is ingrained in us early on. No, it doesn’t help because we try so hard to be what we think someone else wants us to be, sometimes just to feel loved. I’m learning to think differently when it comes to what makes me feel guilty and letting go of whatever image I have in my head…it’s a learning process. If it’s something I can physically do then I stop “whining” about it and get it done, other wise it’s inconsequential until I’m ready to deal with. I know what you mean about enjoying someone’s company more when the meeting is not forced, it’s not a guilt trip. Great point: “I think we should spend more time living from a sense of joy and less time focusing on obligations we think others expect of us”.
Al at 7P, what exactly made you feel guilty? Actually, it was only meant to be thought provoking, to get people to question their guilt or ask is it even real and hopefully see the things we feel guilty over are unnecessary and may only require a change in thinking and attitude.
JD, well then I look forward to your “I Feel Guilty so you don’t have to” post then. Lol…Yeah that IS your responsibility to do stuff, BUT since you already do a brilliant job at doing stuff, we will cut you some slack. Blogging is supposed to be fun. Each visit, click, comment, drop, a surprise, not an expectation. Enjoy it!
Syuxx, I never ever feel guilty about not posting. I don’t think there is anyone out there sitting around waiting for me to post. (Of course if there is email me). I take a break and go visit and support other bloggers.
Im not.
but
that doesnt mean I shouldnt be
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Natural,
A few years ago I was a guest at a dinner for a world-famous pschychologist when he won an award. (He was one of my dad’s best friends.) I will NEVER forget his words: he spoke on human emotions, and how all are necessary to express at times, including anger, aggression, jealousy, etc..He closed by saying that in all of his years of practice, he had encountered only one human emotion that TOOK everything, yet GAVE nothing. He called it “the most evil and repressive emotion that humans ever dealt with where NOBODY gains.” That emotion: guilt!
Rita
Mizfit Okay, what did you do? Tell us.
I’ll go read your blog post. Thanks for the visit.
Rita That must have been some speech, sounds interesting and what a great closing. Why am I critiquing? Anywho, he is so right, guilt takes and never gives back. Thanks for stopping by and leaving this comment.
I need an update from you!!
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Meleah, LOL, I’ll see if I can string an off the wall post together, but only because you asked.
You know what song I’m singing right now. lol
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I do feel kind of guilt over not posting every day, to the blogs. But it is mostly frustration at myself - one more thing I am not doing as I had planned to do. Letting myself down.
I wake up feeling guilty. I think it’s just the natural order of things for me.
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Hi Valerie - We pile so much guilt on ourselves don’t we. Mine always relates to not getting everything done that I should be doing. And I guess you’re right - maybe sometimes we feel guilty, so we don’t feel so bad about letting others down - I guess we’re punishing ourselves in a way.
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hahahahah
That song stays on your mind!
And I am leaving another comment because the number 39 was bothering me. Now when I look at this post I will see a nice well rounded number 40!
xxoo
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Hi Laura, no need to feel guilt over not posting, life gets in the way sometimes. As much fun as blogging is, it can be exhausting. I take breaks and go visit those who can.
Debateur, wow, you wake up with guilt. You ever ask yourself why? Destroy the roots.
CathLawson, yeah we do pile on guilt, unnecessarily.
Meleah, this comment messes up the round number, darn, unless I can attract 9 more people here to make it 50. Darn I’m getting lazy, but I cleaned my fish tank last night and it’s sparkling…it makes me feel good to see such beauty. I love it when it’s clean.
I just wanted to comment and say that I feel guilty for dropping entrecards and not commenting, therefore, I am commenting. Actually, your site is intriguing and I enjoy your interactivity with your readers by asking questions such as feeling “guilty.” Great work and I’ll be back for more!
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I don’t understand Bloggers who feel “guilty” because they havent’ posted within a certain time period.
We already have enough rules and things we “Should do” in life. Why add more when we don’t have to?
Blogging is NOT a full-time job. We’re not reporting to an editor to meet deadlines. We’re not providing weather forecasts that peoples’ lives depend on.
NOBODY is going to die, get hurt, or lose their job, if we don’t post.
We need to get over ourselves. Any stress or guilt people feel, is purely self-imposed.
That being said…if you dont’ respond to my comment, that’s perfectly fine. I won’t be offended!
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Charles,Guilty for dropping and no commenting. Well you just did, (i think, did you click?) and you left a comment, so no more guilt
….well hey, it’s like that. i do it and keep it moving…sometimes, i leave a comment, sometimes i don’t.
Friar, This post is almost a week old…nobody cares. I agree with you…you have the right frame of mind for something that is supposed to be a fun hobby. Say what you like and I won’t be offended…..too much.
Thanks for stopping by, great comment too!
I love the idea that blogs are an invitation and posts are meals. That really does make me feel better about not having enough time to read everyone’s latest.
Friar up above makes a great point about blogging guilt: no one’s lives are on the line, so perhaps we should all relax a bit.
My guilt comes from not calling my friends often enough. I’m not a fan of the phone, so they usually end up calling me more than I call them. Does that mean I’m angry at them, at myself, or at Alexander Graham Bell? I’m going with the latter…
Hey Anon, I thought my illustration was pretty darn good.
When you look at it like that, how can you feel guilty?
The great thing about your real friends is that you can not call in months, pick up the phone, and not miss a beat. I don’t call, well anybody, I hate the phone.
Thanks for stopping by, I’ll call you later?
sometimes i feel guilty if i have not updated any of my blogs for days and i also feel guilty not being able able to read most of the articles when i bloghop.
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Maria, I deleted my blog I couldn’t update and now I’m looking at another one with a screw face I have not updated in over a month…my finger is on the button.
Anywho, you have to go back and read my analogy up top.
Blogs - invitation
Post - meals
We can eat every meal.
If you sit down to bloghop. Bloghop. When I sit down to drop cards, I sit down to drop cards. If I read something by chance, great.
thanks for the visit and the comment. try not to beat yourself up.
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I sat down to think about this - what am I guilty of right now? At first, I couldnt think of anything but couldnt accept that I wasnt guilty of anything so I thought harder and true enough, these are the things I am guilty for:
Not calling and seeing my grandmothers enough
Not spending more quality time with my daughter
Not forcing myself onto that blasted treadmill
Damn! I need to change…..
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Big Pumpkin, I guess if we sat down to think about it, we all could come up with something. Assuming you’re able, the three things that you listed can be done, those are things within your control to change. Have T help you with your exercise.
Your number 2 never seems like enough, but sometimes it is…
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Funny that you mentioned it because I did feel guilty for not posting for almost 2 weeks. And I DO feel kinda guilty for not replying to all the comments that piled up.
However, I’m considering ceasing doing that all together since I don’t have the time anymore to write my blog and keep up on the blogs I read too. I’d rather comment on YOUR blogs than my own anyway. lol
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Corrina, okay well I did miss your absence. Wondered what happened to you.
Uh, don’t give up blogging. I’ve slowed down myself, nothing wrong with a time out.
I feel guilty about not joining the Big Sister/Big Brother program to mentor some kid who could use a role model. I’m the perfect candidate, and I know how much it’s needed, but with all that’s going on in my life, I just don’t have the time. I would hate to commit to a kid and then find myself letting her down somewhere in the future.
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Aw Fitness Diva..you can mentor me in fitness….
okay not what you had in mind, i still need to drop a few….
Well maybe when your schedule frees up a little you’ll be able to do something. How committed do you have to be, one day a week or more. I understand though…it’s probably better not to be there than to be inconsistent.
Oh no, I won’t give up blogging- just replying to comments all the time. lol
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oh okay and to no surprise, i read your comment wrong. well you have to say hello to us in the comment section.
alright, good to know you’ll still be with us.
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