Enjoy Retirement, but Don’t Spend My Inheritance
EDIT: Due to brain damage, I forget to mention the winner of the personal finance book is Sandy K. Sandy I will put the book in the mail today, thanks for entering!
“Inheritance is the practice of passing on property, titles, debts, and obligations upon the death of an individual. It has long played an extremely important role in human societies.” Wikipedia
Several times while listening to a personal finance radio show I’ve heard callers call in about their inheritance from parents who are not even dead yet. It amazes me how some people feel a sense of entitlement just because they breath air, like they did something truly remarkable to deserve their inheritance.
I thought an inheritance was a gift and not a right.
This just got me thinking, how do you feel about what your parents have accumulated, if anything? Would it be ‘okay’ if they left you with nothing or would you feel like you’ve been jipped.
Do you ever wonder if your parents are spending your inheritance?
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My name is Valerie aka Natural and I will be writing about whatever is on my mind. I love teaching, dialogue, sharing and making people laugh. I never know what I'll share here but this is me, Thinking Out Loud.
Haha, This reminds me of a law class I had in college. The Professor asked “If you give your parents an expensive gift, are you entitled to get it back when they die?”
A lot of students said “Yes”
The professor disagreed. She said if you expect to get it back, than you should “loan” it to them, not give it to them.
I completely agreed. And I agree with what you’re saying, “inheritance is a gift, not a right”.
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I absolutely agree with this post! Inheritance is a gift. I doubt we’ll get much more than a few mementos from my Mum, and that’s fine. If she has anything to leave, then it should go to whoever she wishes it to go to, whether that’s an obscure cousin’s youngest daughter or the local cat’s home. There’s no way I’d be wrangling over money when her time comes. Good grief, I can’t offhand think of anything more ugly and grasping than the proprietorial behaviour of people who consider a parent’s property ‘theirs’ even before they pass on!
Some of the nastiest behaviour I have witnessed has been after the death of a ‘loved one’ and has been driven by just this sense of entitlement. A member of our own family evicted his elderly, widowed and wheelchair-bound grandmother so he could sell the house from under her. She had lived with his father (her son) and he had failed to make a will. Everyone in the family knew that he wished her to be allowed to stay put until her death, but when this maggot inherited everything by default, he made her move to a crappy old folks’ home. It’s not even as if his father was poor.
Gah.
I cant even imagine planning on ‘how to spend’ my parents money after they die? YIKES….what is wrong with people? Maybe they need to focus on making their own money. sheesh
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I used to resent the fact that my alcoholic mother basically pissed the millions my father left us away on booze, gambling, bad loans, etc., but I realized your point some time ago & got over it. When she passed away, I ended up with enough for a downpayment for a house, anyway. Better than a kick in the @$$.
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bless your heart and I need it for so many reasons sk
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I’m pretty sure my mom is buying shoes with my inheritance. So I’ll be inheriting lots of sandals with heels. lol
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Hi Natural - you could get me going here - I think it’s pathetic when people see their parents’ money as their own. They don’t feel strong enough to make their own money, I suppose. I can’t relate at all to thinking like that. YUK! (I have a friend who is a bit like that, so I am pre-annoyed about it.)
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That’s true Barbara, loan and not give. There’s less stress when you give whatever away, you don’t worry about getting it back. At least I don’t, but loaning things, you wonder if you will ever see it again.
Jay, not with everyone, but some kids expect their parents to take care of them forever, even in death. I think they’ve done enough, time to fly.
Meleah, me neither….for whatever reasons people may have, some expect it (inheritance). Some lose sight of what, at least I think it is, a gift. Gifts are unexpected.
Lana, my sober father is probably pissing away everything he got from his mother or ever saved and I know he’s not leaving us anything - he’s selfish - My mother on the other hand has always given to her children, so I tell her not to leave ME anything, to go and enjoy her money, travel. She worked hard for it and she taught me well enough. She left me something that can’t be spent, lost, or stolen….a pretty darn good example and a hard act to follow. I’ll be just fine without her money. Of course, she is leaving me/us something, but that’s because she doesn’t listen, but if there were nothing materially, she left plenty in other ways.
Sandy, enjoy the book. My princess picks the winners and she picked entry two.
Corrina, lol. Hey what size are those shoes?
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Robin, It’s a little sad, when some forget all that their parents have done for them in the past….it’s still not enough. They do feel entitled just because they breath. I don’t get it either. Of course most parents will take care of their kid(s) and leave them something, but it does get to me when it’s expected and even fought over.
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I agree: inheritance is a gift — you’re not “owed” anything from your parents. That said, I almost cried when my sort of wealthy-ish aunt told me she’d fallen for a scam artist and gave him $8,000.
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Amen! The greatest gift my parents could leave me would be a legacy of life well lived. Mom’s smart, though–she keeps a list of the items that mean a lot to each of us, so that each of us will inherit the things that are most meaningful. Keeps money and fairness out of it.
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Do I ever wonder if my parents are spending my inheritance? Not really. I think they’ve given me more than enough as is. Plus, I try not to think of them dying anytime soon.
However as my mom is a state employee, I am entitled to her retirement benefits when she passes away. I’m not in any hurry to get those benefits, but with the way my state does things sometimes, I wonder if they’ll hold true to their word.
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JD - $8,000! Ouch.
Sara, that’s nice of your mom to do. Better than fighting.
TOPolk enough IS enough, but not everyone sees it that way.
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My hubby & I have been looked after by my mother (in lots of ways) as we have gone through some really hard times.
Just recently, things have turned the corner with a vengeance, and it’s nice to know that we can return a little of her financial help by supporting her now.
I dread to think of the day when my mum won’t be here to hug us all. Money won’t bring her back then, and I feel really sorry for those who care more for that than their own parents.
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Hi Jane, sorry about the delay in responding. Glad things turned around for you and you’re able to help mom. It’s a beautiful thing to do when you can.
I find it repulsive that anyone would count on or expect an inheritance. My comment is that the lazy bast-ds go out and make their own fortune and stop sucking on the parental teet.
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Well there are some that expect an inheritance as if it were their birth right…maybe a long time ago, birth rights were the norm, but hello….go make your own, as if raising you somehow weren’t enough.
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