Malicious Comment
What would prompt you to leave a mean comment on someone’s blog? Did they make you mad? Maybe something they wrote upset you and you wanted to set them straight? Okay I get it….I have left some passionate comments on a blog before, but never have I personally attacked the writer or left a nasty comment.
I was reading an interesting article in the WSJ about a mommy blogger, Heather Armstrong, who “sought therapy to cope with vitriolic posts.” She goes on to say: “The hate mail will invariably happen, and when it does your entire world will crumble around your ears,” she says. In one example, she says a person she thought was a friend posted a comment saying she “wanted to punch me in the face because she hated me so much.” She adds she can understand why “famous people turn to drugs or commit suicide.”
Why the hatred? I think it’s because hurting people, hurt people. We get offended quickly and our defense is to make people feel our pain by trying to hurt them back. So cursing at them or calling them names somehow makes us feel better so we leave our nasty comment, after all we are right and they are wrong. Hurting people hurt people.
I checked out Heather’s blog and unfortunately her posts are closed to comments. I like interacting with bloggers and not being able to just makes the blog seem like a book. I have plenty of books to read…I do think it takes away from the total experience of blogging, but sometimes because of other people, it’s necessary. If you get a chance, read the article….I thought it was interesting.
Do you leave nasty comments on people’s blogs? Has anyone left a mean comment on your blog? What did you do? I haven’t had too many problems, maybe some misunderstandings, but I’ll blog about that later.
Hi Natural,
I’ve had negative comments, but not nasty ones. If I visit other blogs I will at times disagree with the author and state my point of view, however, I would never leave a nasty comment.
It’s sad when a blogger is forced to close their comment section due to hurtful comments.
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That’s one thing I forgot to mention Barbara, negative comments. I can take negative comments, I respect their opinion. Some people are just unhappy and negative is all they know, but when you fill it with hate, it’s like why. What’s the purpose? I don’t get it.
no one gets it…not even the hater
I have never left nor received hate “mail” but I’ve seen it, and all I can figure is that hating makes their own small sad lives seem better…
it makes me sick
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I have had my fair share of nasty comments over the last few years. It seemed the most passionate people were those who felt I was betraying the “true me” by not embracing and professing admiration and love for my birth mother.
Getting constantly beat up and put down was exhausting and depressing. I no longer had the right to feel what I felt if it didn’t fit in with what those adoptees and birth mothers wanted. Eventually, I just gave up the blog.
This time around I vowed to just continue to be real and fight the hell out of whoever opposed me instead of letting them win. So far, it hasn’t been too bad, but I just know the minute I start that whole “mother, birth mother, i’m happy” discussion, it will get really ugly.
Ok I’m done rambling.. lol
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Hey grrl….
Do you leave nasty comments on people’s blogs?
Never. If I don’t have anything nice to say, I dont say anything at all.
Has anyone left a mean comment on your blog?
Oh hell yes.
What did you do?
I delete and Ignore and move on.
*There are Internet Trolls everywhere. They feed off the negative / bad energy and attention. Ignoring is The Best recourse. When THEY dont get the reaction they are seeking they give up, move on, and irritate someone else.
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I have left comments where I disagreed with what the author was saying. But nothing negative or hateful. I mean, I’m not like that in real life, why do it online? Also, I am not sure where I want the direction of my blog to go, so I have concern for my reputation. Do I want people seeing me as hateful and negative and just mean-spirited? or… do I want them to see me as someone who is basically friendly and knows know pretty much how to conduct herself?
But no, never received anything hateful… *crosses fingers”
As usual… you’re making me think and stuff.
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I’ve received nonconstructive negative comments, but nothing I’d consider out right hatred.
The reason “hateful” and “abusive” comments are posted has always been simple to me. The anonymity of the Internet frees individuals to unleash what public society demands we suppress.
Lashing out at someone who cannot strike back because they do not know your identity and cannot see your face is a rush for some people, especially those who are internalizing some intense emotions on a daily basis. It’s like empowerment for the disenfranchised.
I’m willing to bet a great deal of it is done by high school boys who take a whole lot of ridicule and hazing at school, and by “paying it forward” it alleviates a lot of the self-worthlessness they feel.
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I`ve never left any mean comment on any of the blogs I have visited so far. Usually whenever I read something I disagree with, I just move on to another blog, rather than posting ugly words. The closest I came to this situation was when I read on a girl`s blog that she recommended chick lit. She was proud to be a student of foreign languages - which I graduated from a while ago - and I found it rather weird that from all the very good books she had to read because of the curriculum, she chose to recommend that. Anyhow my most “acid” comment was <> :))
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Nameless, I certainly don’t get it. People you don’t even know. So what you don’t agree with someone wrote, argue that point respectfully, but don’t attack the person.
Monique I remember reading about your ordeal on your blog and that’s a shame that you couldn’t express your true feelings. They were your personal opinions and feelings..that’s what a blog is
Meleah Rebeccah, What’s up girlfriend. That’s probably a wise thing to do…just be quiet. I see a lot of things I can challenge, sometimes I do, other times I don’t even bother to work up an emotion. I don’t get mean and I can, but for what?
Jillian, so have I. Nobody says we have to agree with everything. I’m sure I write some stuff people don’t agree with….that’s fine, but why the personal attack.
Very true, Michael. It’s a lot easier to be mean when you’re the Wizard behind the curtain. Treating people the way you would want to be treated would cure so many problems in the world.
Hi Fallen Angel, there are a few reasons why people leave mean comments: pride, jealousy and low self-esteem. People put other people down to build themselves up. Sometimes people are doing things we wish we were, so we look for faults and ways to belittle them. It’s sad.
As far as the blog goes good or bad comment at least you engaged someone and got them thinking. I learned a long time ago that not everyone is going to like me. There are some people I don’t like to be around (mostly the negative ones) and I avoid them.
I worked at Walt Disney World (The Happiest Place On Earth) a few years back. 95% of the people I came in contact with were on vacation in a good mood and determined to have a good time. The other 5% were miserable and you could just tell that this is how they always were and it’s never going to change no matter what.
No matter what you did to make the vacation a little better it just didn’t matter. I really feel sorry for them. If that’s how they are going to live their life and deal with people then it’s their fault.
I find it much more fun to make a grouch smile than make a nice person cry.
I’ve never made a nasty comment and don’t ever intend to. Even if I didn’t agree with something, it doesn’t need to be a nasty comment. Points of views can be delivered across in a nice manner. Hurting people hurt people. That is so true.
I had a nasty comment once and I responded to it with love. He never came back. *shrugs shoulders*
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Sometimes things are just better left unsaid unless it is just a difference in opinion and the viewer can direct it in a tasteful way. Mags
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Funny you wrote that post because over the last couple of weeks it’s been more apparent to me that people have forgotten their manners online and over the phone. I agree so much with Michaels comment because it seems people find it such a high to abuse someone they can’t see or hear and they forget that who they are abusing is a person too, with feelings; personally I think that’s just being cowardly. Treat evreryone you meet like how you’d like to be treated, whether online or not. I haven’t had any abusive comments on my blog and I encourage people to say if they disagree with what I’m saying and with that being said if I do get some abuse I’m not going to pretend that I have a tough skin and blow if off, I’ll take it a little hard but like everything else in life you find a way to move on.
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People are anonymous on the internet, which allows them to be as prickish as they want to be. Unfortunately I think this trend is only going to get worse, considering the increasing desocialization of modern youth (at least in the West.) I got a mean comment once on my old blog, but I don’t worry about such things. In the long run that person was proven very wrong, anyway.
It’s kind of like what my husband & I say in response to news, etc.; “People suck.” Too many of them really do.
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So far, no one’s left a nasty comment on my blog. What would I do if they did? Probably delete it. I don’t see the point of letting someone’s ugliness stay there for others to read. I’d never leave a nasty comment myself, either. That’s just bad blog karma.
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Road Warriors, do we really get them *thinking* or do we just get them *talking*. Some people aren’t thinking, they’re just angry. I just read a blog this evening with over 182 comments on one post, most of the comments were full of hatred and curses…even if the person they were talking about brought some of the talk on herself. 182 comments. That’s a lot.
Big Pumpkin, variety is the spice of life. Imagine if everyone had YOUR personality (I mean that as a group, not you) how the world would be. I know I don’t want to run into another me no where, not even in the mirror, one of me is enough. Everyone is different, show respect and appreciate the different point of view w/o the mayhem and foolishness. :\
Mags, that’s so true. We should be able to respect opinions and move on, Agree to disagree.
@ Tondy, maybe people don’t feel that they need to have manners online. Good point.
Lana, I hope it doesn’t get worse. You too make a great point in the “desocialization of modern youth”. Perhaps people are so detached from human contact that they are desensitized to the feelings of others.
Corrina, Yeah that would be the way to go, it can stumble you a bit at first, just delete it and move on.
Nasty Comment.
That was the first one I ever left. I have gotten nasty emails and strange/somewhat nasty comments. I ignore them or mock them in subsequent posts.
That’s funny Joe. I don’t know how anyone could leave a mean or nasty comment on your blog, you have the coolest videos and great posts. Ignore and Mock, lol.
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I’ve never left a nasty or mean comment on somebody’s blog. I disagree with people quite a bit, but it’s just that–a difference of opinion. I really don’t think the author mentioned above should have taken that comment quite so seriously. I wouldn’t have…
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Hi Mikey777, I too disagree with people and I’m sure people disagree with me…that’s life. The mommy blogger gets a lot of comments, or use to, and to have someone say they want to punch you in the face is a bit juvenile. If I got 530 comments and 300 of them wanted to do bodily harm to me, I would take that seriously. Argue the point, not beat the person. Just my .02
I don’t leave negative comments on people’s blogs - at least nothing attacking them
I can disagree but I don’t see how pelting insults does anything for me
perhaps because I would be plagued by guilt? I don’t know
I just .. don’t
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NOPE! I aim to lift people up, not drag ‘em down!
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Jemi, I couldn’t imagine you leaving a negative comment, your blog and writing is so uplifting and encouraging.
and that you do Olga, I’m sure you wouldn’t have it any other way! Keep it up!
I find comments no problem at all. I average, oh, about 15 comments per blog piece. Guess I’m lucky, the vast majority of my comments are pure pleasure.
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JP, that’s great. I’ve been over to your blog. It’s nice to be surrounded and encouraged by positive talk and conversation.
I have not had anyone leave hateful remarks on my site but I have had several women who I considered to be wonderful people write about me on theirs. Of course they skew the entire situation and truth and get people riled up, it’s sickening. However, they truly meant for me to see and I did but I did not comment back or even try to defend myself. It seems like there are a group of people who are not happy unless they are bringing you down. I say do not give them the power and keep on doing your positive work.
Really, Rather Not Say? Interesting. I guess *sometimes* it’s better not to respond. If people want to lure you in with negative talk, they’re the ones that look bad. I really wouldn’t want my reputation dragged through the mud…if anyone is going to do that, it’s going to be me.