Comments on: Money Monday Tip #20 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/money-monday-tip-20/ Wed, 19 Nov 2008 00:38:59 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Natural http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/money-monday-tip-20/#comment-3950 Natural Tue, 29 Jul 2008 10:07:35 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/money-monday-tip-20/#comment-3950 Indeed they are Mandy, I guess after reading Barbara's comment, they have me spooked a bit. I "understand" them, but never had to live under the "umbrella" of one. Indeed they are Mandy, I guess after reading Barbara’s comment, they have me spooked a bit. I “understand” them, but never had to live under the “umbrella” of one.

]]> By: Mandy http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/money-monday-tip-20/#comment-3908 Mandy Mon, 28 Jul 2008 05:25:38 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/money-monday-tip-20/#comment-3908 Prenups are tricky. It can either strengthen your marriage or destroy the very foundation of marriage, which is trust. Prenups are tricky. It can either strengthen your marriage or destroy the very foundation of marriage, which is trust.

]]> By: Natural http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/money-monday-tip-20/#comment-2333 Natural Sat, 17 May 2008 10:40:26 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/money-monday-tip-20/#comment-2333 Barbara, thank you for this prospective..I never looked at it from this viewpoint or never would have known had you not broken it down for us like this...I had to share this with some of my friend. You gave me something to think about and maybe even changed my mind about signing one..if I were ever so fortunate. Emotionally "messes" with your head and your heart....that's very true. Thanks for sharing this! Barbara, thank you for this prospective..I never looked at it from this viewpoint or never would have known had you not broken it down for us like this…I had to share this with some of my friend. You gave me something to think about and maybe even changed my mind about signing one..if I were ever so fortunate. Emotionally “messes” with your head and your heart….that’s very true. Thanks for sharing this!

]]> By: Barbara http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/money-monday-tip-20/#comment-2313 Barbara Fri, 16 May 2008 19:10:03 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/money-monday-tip-20/#comment-2313 Ok…. I gotta vent….. I wouldn’t recommend anyone signing a pre-nup agreement! And I am not even talking from the perspective of not “getting anything” from your spouse… I could care less, but the mental and emotional strain from having such an agreement is somedays just paralyzing… Now I plan on being married “forever” and even if he decided to divorce me, I wouldn’t take anything that wasn’t mine anyway. But the presence of a pre nup just is constantly a “reminder” of how much he doesn’t trust you and how much he feels like he needs to “protect” his STUFF from the likes of you… Kinda makes you feel like you‘re an up and coming criminal. So then no matter how much he tells you he loves you and trusts you and wants the best for your relationship there is always that lingering “yeah right” in the back of your mind. And just when you finally start getting used to it and have tried to put it as far in the back of your mind as possible, something HAS to bring it right back up again and the emotional cycle repeats itself. For instance, he wants to refinance his house… well now all of a sudden because of state law you are required to sign paperwork anyway, even though you have documentation saying you have no vested ownership, which he makes VERY CLEAR to the bank. So not only are you “embarrassed” in front of the people at the bank, because they KNOW he has a prenup… therefore you must be a “gold digger”, but then the documents come out of the printer with your name on the Mortgage… God forbid! Well, being in the field of loan processing for a few years, I know that even if the other “spouse’s name is NOWHERE on the loan, they still have to sign the mortgage to protect the bank. So anyway, the mortgage paper comes out with your name on it…. And he “freaks out” and tells them the paperwork is wrong and you ARE NOT supposed to be on the mortgage, so then you are really embarrassed because you REALLY look like a BAD person that he has to protect his stuff from!!!!!!!!!!!! And about that time you just want to cry…. He really has no idea because he’s not in your shoes. But don’t you “dare” bring it up or he’s just sure that it’s because of the “money”… and no matter how much you try and explain he just doesn’t get the fact that it emotionally “messes” with your head and your heart. Totally sucks to be you. Ok…. I gotta vent….. I wouldn’t recommend anyone signing a pre-nup agreement! And I am not even talking from the perspective of not “getting anything” from your spouse… I could care less, but the mental and emotional strain from having such an agreement is somedays just paralyzing… Now I plan on being married “forever” and even if he decided to divorce me, I wouldn’t take anything that wasn’t mine anyway. But the presence of a pre nup just is constantly a “reminder” of how much he doesn’t trust you and how much he feels like he needs to “protect” his STUFF from the likes of you…
Kinda makes you feel like you‘re an up and coming criminal. So then no matter how much he tells you he loves you and trusts you and wants the best for your relationship there is always that lingering “yeah right” in the back of your mind.
And just when you finally start getting used to it and have tried to put it as far in the back of your mind as possible, something HAS to bring it right back up again and the emotional cycle repeats itself. For instance, he wants to refinance his house… well now all of a sudden because of state law you are required to sign paperwork anyway, even though you have documentation saying you have no vested ownership, which he makes VERY CLEAR to the bank. So not only are you “embarrassed” in front of the people at the bank, because they KNOW he has a prenup… therefore you must be a “gold digger”, but then the documents come out of the printer with your name on the Mortgage… God forbid! Well, being in the field of loan processing for a few years, I know that even if the other “spouse’s name is NOWHERE on the loan, they still have to sign the mortgage to protect the bank. So anyway, the mortgage paper comes out with your name on it…. And he “freaks out” and tells them the paperwork is wrong and you ARE NOT supposed to be on the mortgage, so then you are really embarrassed because you REALLY look like a BAD person that he has to protect his stuff from!!!!!!!!!!!! And about that time you just want to cry…. He really has no idea because he’s not in your shoes. But don’t you “dare” bring it up or he’s just sure that it’s because of the “money”… and no matter how much you try and explain he just doesn’t get the fact that it emotionally “messes” with your head and your heart. Totally sucks to be you.

]]> By: Natural http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/money-monday-tip-20/#comment-1287 Natural Tue, 01 Apr 2008 00:01:30 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/money-monday-tip-20/#comment-1287 Well Tondy, it might be a good idea for some, but not for all...it's touchy. Nobody is after my .02, but I have other issues. No, you can't get one after you're married. It's pre...meaning before the marriage. Jillian, I know, lol. First marriage for regular joes, maybe not...2nd marriage with money and kids, maybe. I would sign one after I read it....shoot, maybe I'll even draft my own. :/ Darn Robert, this post is too late. Sorry, next marriage. <em>Natural's last blog post..<a href='http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/money-monday-tip-20/' rel="nofollow">Money Monday Tip #20</a></em> Well Tondy, it might be a good idea for some, but not for all…it’s touchy. Nobody is after my .02, but I have other issues. No, you can’t get one after you’re married. It’s pre…meaning before the marriage.

Jillian, I know, lol. First marriage for regular joes, maybe not…2nd marriage with money and kids, maybe. I would sign one after I read it….shoot, maybe I’ll even draft my own. :/

Darn Robert, this post is too late. Sorry, next marriage.

Natural’s last blog post..Money Monday Tip #20

]]> By: Robert Bourne http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/money-monday-tip-20/#comment-1286 Robert Bourne Mon, 31 Mar 2008 23:07:54 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/money-monday-tip-20/#comment-1286 alas having been down the road twice..this advice comes to late....:)) <em>Robert Bourne's last blog post..<a href='http://robertsroad.blogspot.com/2008/03/redneck-peers-into-future.html' rel="nofollow">The Redneck Peers Into the Future</a></em> alas having been down the road twice..this advice comes to late….:))

Robert Bourne’s last blog post..The Redneck Peers Into the Future

]]> By: Jillian http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/money-monday-tip-20/#comment-1285 Jillian Mon, 31 Mar 2008 21:29:36 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/money-monday-tip-20/#comment-1285 My husband and I never had to worry about needing a prenup because both of us aren't really worth anything financially. We knew we would enter into a marriage "broke"...lol... and with hardwork on both our parts hopefully build something solid together. But, yes, I would sign a prenup. I understand wanting to protect whatever you have worked hard for and it would suck to get divorced and suddenly have to share what only you worked for. But yeah, I'd read it and if I didn't have any objections, I would sign it! <em>Jillian's last blog post..<a href='http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheLoquaciouslyVerboseRamblingsOf1Slacker/~3/261417103/why-variety-is-indeed-spice-of-life.html' rel="nofollow">Why Variety is Indeed the Spice of Life</a></em> My husband and I never had to worry about needing a prenup because both of us aren’t really worth anything financially. We knew we would enter into a marriage “broke”…lol… and with hardwork on both our parts hopefully build something solid together.

But, yes, I would sign a prenup. I understand wanting to protect whatever you have worked hard for and it would suck to get divorced and suddenly have to share what only you worked for.

But yeah, I’d read it and if I didn’t have any objections, I would sign it!

Jillian’s last blog post..Why Variety is Indeed the Spice of Life

]]> By: Tondy http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/money-monday-tip-20/#comment-1281 Tondy Mon, 31 Mar 2008 09:14:25 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/money-monday-tip-20/#comment-1281 Prenup,very good idea. I didn't think this was going to affect me until I read "if you're planning to put your partner through school". Yap my hubby wants to go to Med School, and I have some underlying trust issues so I'm in a tight bind. I'm definitely considerind a prenup - it can happen after you're married, right? <em>Tondy's last blog post..<a href='http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/tondie/~3/259426835/in-cold-i-lay.html' rel="nofollow">In the Cold I lay!</a></em> Prenup,very good idea. I didn’t think this was going to affect me until I read “if you’re planning to put your partner through school”. Yap my hubby wants to go to Med School, and I have some underlying trust issues so I’m in a tight bind. I’m definitely considerind a prenup - it can happen after you’re married, right?

Tondy’s last blog post..In the Cold I lay!

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