Comments on: The Rise of the Freemale http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/the-rise-of-the-freemale/ Thu, 20 Nov 2008 18:04:24 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Natural http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/the-rise-of-the-freemale/#comment-3089 Natural Mon, 23 Jun 2008 11:04:31 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/?p=216#comment-3089 Okay cardiogirl, your neighbor sounds "interesting". i think i read about her on your blog (kids in the car while she mowed the lawn). I might do what the man does, lay back and enjoy, uh, the ride? Okay cardiogirl, your neighbor sounds “interesting”. i think i read about her on your blog (kids in the car while she mowed the lawn). I might do what the man does, lay back and enjoy, uh, the ride?

]]> By: cardiogirl http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/the-rise-of-the-freemale/#comment-3076 cardiogirl Sun, 22 Jun 2008 12:50:14 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/?p=216#comment-3076 This is interesting, in that in brings up the chicks out there who are married and are mothers, but they have a chip on their shoulders. My next-door neighbor is like that. She went rollerblading when she was nine-months pregnant. She was on top of the roof, nailing in shingles when she had two small babies. She seems to want to be seen as the man in the marriage. And her husband seems cool with that. She strikes me as a married Freemale. She definitely wears the pants in that relationship. This is interesting, in that in brings up the chicks out there who are married and are mothers, but they have a chip on their shoulders. My next-door neighbor is like that. She went rollerblading when she was nine-months pregnant. She was on top of the roof, nailing in shingles when she had two small babies.

She seems to want to be seen as the man in the marriage. And her husband seems cool with that. She strikes me as a married Freemale.

She definitely wears the pants in that relationship.

]]> By: Natural http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/the-rise-of-the-freemale/#comment-2980 Natural Mon, 16 Jun 2008 10:39:39 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/?p=216#comment-2980 JD that's true. I'm sure just like with everything, there's pressure to conform or to look normal because "everyone's doing it".I know it was expected way back when to marry and have a family.... BTW JD, I got my TENS unit. ahhhhhhh Robin, it's all work. Men/Kids :). Both definitely can be rewarding but not everyone wants to go that route. Respect. JD that’s true. I’m sure just like with everything, there’s pressure to conform or to look normal because “everyone’s doing it”.I know it was expected way back when to marry and have a family….
BTW JD, I got my TENS unit. ahhhhhhh

Robin, it’s all work. Men/Kids :). Both definitely can be rewarding but not everyone wants to go that route. Respect.

]]> By: Robin http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/the-rise-of-the-freemale/#comment-2973 Robin Mon, 16 Jun 2008 03:25:34 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/?p=216#comment-2973 Hi Valerie - I was by myself for a long time - I didn't get together with my partner Frank till I had just turned 49. I felt puzzled by it, I guess, I certainly didn't walk around thinking I didn't want to be with someone. It just didn't happen, and I had to make it OK. People who say it is selfish to be alone or not have children are jealous of the freedom, I think, and resentful about the things they "have" to do. Also, many people have children for selfish reasons - such as to try to make their life more meaningful (I mean, we can't rely on other peoplee to do that - even our children). Cheers - Robin Robins last blog post..<a href="http://letsliveforever.net/2008/06/the-money-go-round/">The Money-Go-Round</a> Hi Valerie - I was by myself for a long time - I didn’t get together with my partner Frank till I had just turned 49. I felt puzzled by it, I guess, I certainly didn’t walk around thinking I didn’t want to be with someone. It just didn’t happen, and I had to make it OK.

People who say it is selfish to be alone or not have children are jealous of the freedom, I think, and resentful about the things they “have” to do. Also, many people have children for selfish reasons - such as to try to make their life more meaningful (I mean, we can’t rely on other peoplee to do that - even our children).

Cheers - Robin

Robins last blog post..The Money-Go-Round

]]> By: JD at I Do Things http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/the-rise-of-the-freemale/#comment-2952 JD at I Do Things Sat, 14 Jun 2008 14:02:59 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/?p=216#comment-2952 As long as there are people, there will be labels for them. "Freemale" strikes me as just another catchy phrase someone thought up to describe a type of woman who's been around forever. An interesting question to me is, how many women feel obliged to have a man in their life because that's the expectation? JD at I Do Thingss last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/idothings/~3/311804434/">I Eat (some of the) Lucky Charms so you don’t have to</a> As long as there are people, there will be labels for them.

“Freemale” strikes me as just another catchy phrase someone thought up to describe a type of woman who’s been around forever.

An interesting question to me is, how many women feel obliged to have a man in their life because that’s the expectation?

JD at I Do Thingss last blog post..I Eat (some of the) Lucky Charms so you don’t have to

]]> By: Natural http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/the-rise-of-the-freemale/#comment-2944 Natural Fri, 13 Jun 2008 20:04:43 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/?p=216#comment-2944 Lana, my bad, that was my horrible attempt at trying to write from two different view points while being facetious. Not very good at it. lol Lana, my bad, that was my horrible attempt at trying to write from two different view points while being facetious. Not very good at it. lol

]]> By: Lana http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/the-rise-of-the-freemale/#comment-2942 Lana Fri, 13 Jun 2008 19:53:20 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/?p=216#comment-2942 "I think a lot of pressure is put on women to have the “perfect family” or at least be in a relationship. Something is wrong with you if you are not. Same with kids, if you don’t have them as a couple, people are look at you funny. You can’t possibly be happy with your life." I agree. I've rec'd the funny looks & stupid questions, personally. I misunderstood the quote in your post to imply that's what you'd thought. My bad. Lanas last blog post..<a href="http://lucidflora.blogspot.com/2008/06/sky-watch.html">Sky Watch</a> “I think a lot of pressure is put on women to have the “perfect family” or at least be in a relationship. Something is wrong with you if you are not. Same with kids, if you don’t have them as a couple, people are look at you funny. You can’t possibly be happy with your life.”

I agree. I’ve rec’d the funny looks & stupid questions, personally. I misunderstood the quote in your post to imply that’s what you’d thought. My bad.

Lanas last blog post..Sky Watch

]]> By: Natural http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/the-rise-of-the-freemale/#comment-2940 Natural Fri, 13 Jun 2008 19:37:06 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/?p=216#comment-2940 I enjoy being independent Urban, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t need someone. I love my space and my freedom but I don’t go around saying who I don’t need, I simply live. Why label? There’s also nothing wrong with occasional selfishness, everyone should practice that more, especially women who are always taking care of others and never themselves. Being single or married is only great if YOU are….. 02 Marelisa, I did the same thing you did years ago, I went to Europe alone (met people there later) and not because of not being in a relationship or not having someone to go with, I had the money to go, so I went. I pay my own bills (although I don’t mind being slipped some cash - hehe). Kids are great but they are not for everyone, it’s way too easy to become a parent and it’s expensive. Vered, I can agree with that, being created with a need/desire to love and feel loved, it would seem that human nature dictates a desires to be with someone, (for some, not necessarily married or in a long term relationship) but how the absence of that gets a ‘negative’ label when it’s a choice, as if that’s the only choice for women, intrigues me. Lana, I think a lot of pressure is put on women to have the “perfect family” or at least be in a relationship. Something is wrong with you if you are not. Same with kids, if you don’t have them as a couple, people are look at you funny. You can’t possibly be happy with your life. No I don’t mind a male weighing in Curious Servant. It’s nice to have the male perspective on women issues. I agree and that’s what’s funny about the word “Freemale”. I would think it would apply to a free MALE, but someone has flipped the script and made it about women. The term doesn’t really give you an indication about who that person really is, but here it is. Women problems with male names: Menopause, Mental Illness, Just a little joke. Hehe Confused, yes medical, eye and dental benefits are very important. LOL. Corrina, I agree, I don’t NEED a man to live either, and I compare life to a million dollars. I don’t NEED a million dollars to live, but it helps and my empty pockets do not define who I am. Chris, you would think that people have a right to choose. “People” are so critical and judgmental of women…love to label and make assumptions. Barbara, I don’t know, I think there can be jealousy on both sides: People with man/family want more free time and people with free time want man/family, like you said. I guess as a woman, if you don’t have a man, people make assumptions. Mommy Riz, whatever makes you happy is what’s best for you. Companionship is great. Some people don’t know how to be by themselves and need that constant person, then there are those who enjoy companionship, but don’t need the constant. JEMi, I don’t do labels and these definitions, although if not intended, sound negative. I don’t like negative and don’t focus on it. Sandy, amen. Naturals last blog post..<a href="http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/the-rise-of-the-freemale/">The Rise of the Freemale</a> I enjoy being independent Urban, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t need someone. I love my space and my freedom but I don’t go around saying who I don’t need, I simply live. Why label? There’s also nothing wrong with occasional selfishness, everyone should practice that more, especially women who are always taking care of others and never themselves. Being single or married is only great if YOU are….. 02

Marelisa, I did the same thing you did years ago, I went to Europe alone (met people there later) and not because of not being in a relationship or not having someone to go with, I had the money to go, so I went. I pay my own bills (although I don’t mind being slipped some cash - hehe). Kids are great but they are not for everyone, it’s way too easy to become a parent and it’s expensive.

Vered, I can agree with that, being created with a need/desire to love and feel loved, it would seem that human nature dictates a desires to be with someone, (for some, not necessarily married or in a long term relationship) but how the absence of that gets a ‘negative’ label when it’s a choice, as if that’s the only choice for women, intrigues me.

Lana, I think a lot of pressure is put on women to have the “perfect family” or at least be in a relationship. Something is wrong with you if you are not. Same with kids, if you don’t have them as a couple, people are look at you funny. You can’t possibly be happy with your life.

No I don’t mind a male weighing in Curious Servant. It’s nice to have the male perspective on women issues. I agree and that’s what’s funny about the word “Freemale”. I would think it would apply to a free MALE, but someone has flipped the script and made it about women. The term doesn’t really give you an indication about who that person really is, but here it is. Women problems with male names: Menopause, Mental Illness, Just a little joke. Hehe

Confused, yes medical, eye and dental benefits are very important. LOL.

Corrina, I agree, I don’t NEED a man to live either, and I compare life to a million dollars. I don’t NEED a million dollars to live, but it helps and my empty pockets do not define who I am.

Chris, you would think that people have a right to choose. “People” are so critical and judgmental of women…love to label and make assumptions.

Barbara, I don’t know, I think there can be jealousy on both sides: People with man/family want more free time and people with free time want man/family, like you said. I guess as a woman, if you don’t have a man, people make assumptions.

Mommy Riz, whatever makes you happy is what’s best for you. Companionship is great. Some people don’t know how to be by themselves and need that constant person, then there are those who enjoy companionship, but don’t need the constant.

JEMi, I don’t do labels and these definitions, although if not intended, sound negative. I don’t like negative and don’t focus on it.

Sandy, amen.

Naturals last blog post..The Rise of the Freemale

]]> By: sandy http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/the-rise-of-the-freemale/#comment-2936 sandy Fri, 13 Jun 2008 16:02:01 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/?p=216#comment-2936 chink chink to the freemales, shemales, females with and without- God bless them all and free choices!!! sandys last blog post..<a href="http://spiritifelici.blogspot.com/2008/06/visualization-keeps-us-cool.html">Visualization Keeps Us Cool !!!!</a> chink chink to the freemales, shemales, females with and without- God bless them all and free choices!!!

sandys last blog post..Visualization Keeps Us Cool !!!!

]]> By: JEMi | Tips for Life, Love, You http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/the-rise-of-the-freemale/#comment-2935 JEMi | Tips for Life, Love, You Fri, 13 Jun 2008 15:24:04 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/?p=216#comment-2935 A freemale hmm.. I guess I count as one except I do sense a negative tone in these definitions you found. I wouldn't mind a relationship. In fact, I would like one again one day with someone special. I think its possible to be with someone and still be that strong independent woman. You just get to be a strong independent woman who has a partner in life.. someone to love and not have to be jaded. What's this either/or stuff? Granted I learned alot about myself being alone. I strongly believe this time made me even more of an ideal partner. Freemale.. I've never heard of the term but its certainly interesting JEMi | Tips for Life, Love, Yous last blog post..<a href="http://www.inmyheels.com/visit-tivatecom-for-an-interview-bout-me/">Visit Tivate.com for an Interview ‘Bout Me!</a> A freemale hmm.. I guess I count as one except I do sense a negative tone in these definitions you found. I wouldn’t mind a relationship. In fact, I would like one again one day with someone special. I think its possible to be with someone and still be that strong independent woman. You just get to be a strong independent woman who has a partner in life.. someone to love and not have to be jaded. What’s this either/or stuff?

Granted I learned alot about myself being alone. I strongly believe this time made me even more of an ideal partner.

Freemale.. I’ve never heard of the term but its certainly interesting

JEMi | Tips for Life, Love, Yous last blog post..Visit Tivate.com for an Interview ‘Bout Me!

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