Comments on: Too Successful For A Mate http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/too-successful-for-a-mate/ Thu, 20 Nov 2008 11:42:22 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Natural http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/too-successful-for-a-mate/#comment-3311 Natural Sat, 05 Jul 2008 17:16:37 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/?p=226#comment-3311 Hey Petrov, I doubt that will give me the answer as I think the question is more personal than that. Women are probably more likely to initiate divorce because of something money related,cheating or abuse. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. Divorce is not broken, people are Hey Petrov, I doubt that will give me the answer as I think the question is more personal than that. Women are probably more likely to initiate divorce because of something money related,cheating or abuse. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. Divorce is not broken, people are

]]> By: Petrov http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/too-successful-for-a-mate/#comment-3213 Petrov Mon, 30 Jun 2008 14:33:33 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/?p=226#comment-3213 If you're curious about why men are avoiding successful women, google divorce. Specifically, who is more likely to initiate divorce. Then look at what happens to dad. Do the math. Not your fault girls... divorce is too much of a raw deal for daddy's in the courts. Fix that, and maybe attitudes will change. If you’re curious about why men are avoiding successful women, google divorce. Specifically, who is more likely to initiate divorce. Then look at what happens to dad.

Do the math.

Not your fault girls… divorce is too much of a raw deal for daddy’s in the courts. Fix that, and maybe attitudes will change.

]]> By: Natural http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/too-successful-for-a-mate/#comment-3134 Natural Wed, 25 Jun 2008 10:06:08 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/?p=226#comment-3134 Robin, I've heard that saying many times, especially with people who believe in the law of attraction, like yourself. It could be that "vibe" we put out there that attracts the wrong people. Urban Thoughts, I don't know sir, maybe you have to hang out where successful women do. You have a good point, she too has to be comfortable with what he does and not tell him what to do with his life, if he's happy. Urban Panther 0-->--<. That's great he loves his job, so many of us don't (cough cough). I could learn to like something for over 200,000. Not strange. I rather go to a job I love, really. Oh, I know they're out there Sara, as mentioned, it could be upbringing. It's great when a man can stand side by side with his lady's (financial success) and not turn it into a competition. Something to be proud of, IMHO (in my humble opinion). Robin, I’ve heard that saying many times, especially with people who believe in the law of attraction, like yourself. It could be that “vibe” we put out there that attracts the wrong people.

Urban Thoughts, I don’t know sir, maybe you have to hang out where successful women do. You have a good point, she too has to be comfortable with what he does and not tell him what to do with his life, if he’s happy.

Urban Panther 0–>–<.
That’s great he loves his job, so many of us don’t (cough cough). I could learn to like something for over 200,000. Not strange. I rather go to a job I love, really.

Oh, I know they’re out there Sara, as mentioned, it could be upbringing. It’s great when a man can stand side by side with his lady’s (financial success) and not turn it into a competition. Something to be proud of, IMHO (in my humble opinion).

]]> By: Sara http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/too-successful-for-a-mate/#comment-3129 Sara Wed, 25 Jun 2008 05:04:02 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/?p=226#comment-3129 They're out there. I'd consider it a screening process: if he's okay with your success, then he's a potential keeper. My dude is like Vered's in that he'd love it if I was financially kicking his butt because we're a team and share the benefits. Saras last blog post..<a href="http://www.onsimplicity.net/2008/06/its-okay-to-just-shut-up-understanding-introversion/">It’s Okay to Just Shut Up: Understanding Introversion</a> They’re out there. I’d consider it a screening process: if he’s okay with your success, then he’s a potential keeper. My dude is like Vered’s in that he’d love it if I was financially kicking his butt because we’re a team and share the benefits.

Saras last blog post..It’s Okay to Just Shut Up: Understanding Introversion

]]> By: Urban Panther http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/too-successful-for-a-mate/#comment-3121 Urban Panther Tue, 24 Jun 2008 21:15:36 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/?p=226#comment-3121 Nope, no mistake on the zeros and he isn't even bleeding. LOVES his job now. Ya, okay, he's strange. Urban Panthers last blog post..<a href="http://urbanpanther.typepad.com/urban_panthers_lair/2008/06/proof-is-in-the.html">Proof is in the lists</a> Nope, no mistake on the zeros and he isn’t even bleeding. LOVES his job now. Ya, okay, he’s strange.

Urban Panthers last blog post..Proof is in the lists

]]> By: Urban Thought http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/too-successful-for-a-mate/#comment-3110 Urban Thought Tue, 24 Jun 2008 12:47:56 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/?p=226#comment-3110 Where are these woman and why haven't a met one? Embrace the success and get over your insecurities. As long as she has an understanding that my financial goals aren't the same as hers its all good. I'm saying we need to have an understanding and accept each other for who we are. Just don't start pushing me to do what you feel I should be doing with my life if I'm happy and able to handle my own business. Urban Thoughts last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/UrbanObservation/~3/318249711/">What A Weekend Brings…</a> Where are these woman and why haven’t a met one?

Embrace the success and get over your insecurities. As long as she has an understanding that my financial goals aren’t the same as hers its all good. I’m saying we need to have an understanding and accept each other for who we are.

Just don’t start pushing me to do what you feel I should be doing with my life if I’m happy and able to handle my own business.

Urban Thoughts last blog post..What A Weekend Brings…

]]> By: Robin http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/too-successful-for-a-mate/#comment-3107 Robin Tue, 24 Jun 2008 05:38:02 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/?p=226#comment-3107 Hi there Valerie - I think our relationships reflect what we have ourselves going on, so if we are successful and only meet men who are threatened by that, it's time to change what we are "putting out" for. We will only attract people into our space who fit our pictures. - Cheers Robins last blog post..<a href="http://letsliveforever.net/2008/06/is-death-natural/">Is Death Natural?</a> Hi there Valerie - I think our relationships reflect what we have ourselves going on, so if we are successful and only meet men who are threatened by that, it’s time to change what we are “putting out” for. We will only attract people into our space who fit our pictures. - Cheers

Robins last blog post..Is Death Natural?

]]> By: Natural http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/too-successful-for-a-mate/#comment-3106 Natural Tue, 24 Jun 2008 02:59:37 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/?p=226#comment-3106 Barbara, well no man should be and you worded it so nicely. doesn't need, but want. Vered, practical is great, you see more than just your little hang-ups, but the big picture. not about you, but US. Matt, glad to hear it from a man. If I were a man, I'd be a fool to make it an issue. There are some out there and I guess they have a right to feel that way, I think. Mamaflo, good point, background does have a lot to do with it. We are not living in those times anymore, now it takes two or one big income just to make ends see each other, not even meet. It's time for them to get over it, Sandy? I take my hat off to SAH men. Jon, I agree, background plays a part, that can't be overlooked. If he's intimidated by her success, then maybe his ambitions need to be examined. JEMi or should I say Dr. JEMi, I wouldn't attempt to earn less either, in fact, I can't earn less than I'm earning right now. You are who you are and your success should not be used against you. Marelisa, don't tell my strategy! Shhh. A woman should always take care of herself - No disrespect to men, you are highly valued - I saw this quote on a website that said: A man is not a plan. Women should be able to take care of themselves in the event something happens to the man. She may find success in doing this and it doesn't mean that they are not needed, quite the opposite. Meleah, they could be missing out. Saaaay, Who can date Oprah? Confused, I always knew you were wise beyond your years. Stay home and write is right. uh, Urban Panther, a $200,000 pay cut is more like a stabbing. Even I'm tempted to fill out a police report. Contribution doesn't always = money, it's not really a competition, shouldn't be anyway. Did you make a mistake with your zeros or should I be calling the cops now? Chris, lol. I just read your 'why donate' page on your blog. I know one word in Tagalog: Kamustaka. Hope all goes well with your school. You keep praying, one day your dreams of your wife making more than you will be a reality then you can get started on your golfing. Greeeeatttt! :) Naturals last blog post..<a href="http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/too-successful-for-a-mate/">Too Successful For A Mate</a> Barbara, well no man should be and you worded it so nicely. doesn’t need, but want.

Vered, practical is great, you see more than just your little hang-ups, but the big picture. not about you, but US.

Matt, glad to hear it from a man. If I were a man, I’d be a fool to make it an issue. There are some out there and I guess they have a right to feel that way, I think.

Mamaflo, good point, background does have a lot to do with it. We are not living in those times anymore, now it takes two or one big income just to make ends see each other, not even meet.

It’s time for them to get over it, Sandy? I take my hat off to SAH men.

Jon, I agree, background plays a part, that can’t be overlooked. If he’s intimidated by her success, then maybe his ambitions need to be examined.

JEMi or should I say Dr. JEMi, I wouldn’t attempt to earn less either, in fact, I can’t earn less than I’m earning right now. You are who you are and your success should not be used against you.

Marelisa, don’t tell my strategy! Shhh. A woman should always take care of herself - No disrespect to men, you are highly valued - I saw this quote on a website that said: A man is not a plan. Women should be able to take care of themselves in the event something happens to the man. She may find success in doing this and it doesn’t mean that they are not needed, quite the opposite.

Meleah, they could be missing out. Saaaay, Who can date Oprah?

Confused, I always knew you were wise beyond your years. Stay home and write is right.

uh, Urban Panther, a $200,000 pay cut is more like a stabbing. Even I’m tempted to fill out a police report. Contribution doesn’t always = money, it’s not really a competition, shouldn’t be anyway.

Did you make a mistake with your zeros or should I be calling the cops now?

Chris, lol. I just read your ‘why donate’ page on your blog. I know one word in Tagalog: Kamustaka. Hope all goes well with your school. You keep praying, one day your dreams of your wife making more than you will be a reality then you can get started on your golfing. Greeeeatttt!
:)

Naturals last blog post..Too Successful For A Mate

]]> By: chris http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/too-successful-for-a-mate/#comment-3105 chris Tue, 24 Jun 2008 01:22:13 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/?p=226#comment-3105 What Vered said...I keep praying for the day that my wife will make more than me so I can actually be more irresponsible with my expenses like go golfing every weekend and go out to eat more with the kiddies. chriss last blog post..<a href="http://watdawat.com/2008/06/23/haaaaarvard/">Haaaaarvard</a> What Vered said…I keep praying for the day that my wife will make more than me so I can actually be more irresponsible with my expenses like go golfing every weekend and go out to eat more with the kiddies.

chriss last blog post..Haaaaarvard

]]> By: Urban Panther http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/too-successful-for-a-mate/#comment-3104 Urban Panther Tue, 24 Jun 2008 01:16:26 +0000 http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/?p=226#comment-3104 I make double what my boyfriend does. He knew I made more money than him, but when we finally needed to discuss a combined family income budget, I put my take home dollars in black and white. His response was, "I am uncomfortable with this." However, it was not because he wants/needs/feels he has to make more money. He actually took a $200,000 cut in pay to move to a job he loves. He was uncomfortable because of his generous nature, and wanted to contribute as much as I. I explained that I saw it as one big pot of money regardless of who contributed what. But I also said that there are ways he contributes non-financially that more than show his generosity. He now tells people, with a big mischievous grin, that he has a Sugar Mama. Urban Panthers last blog post..<a href="http://urbanpanther.typepad.com/urban_panthers_lair/2008/06/i-thought-i-was.html">I thought I was perfect</a> I make double what my boyfriend does. He knew I made more money than him, but when we finally needed to discuss a combined family income budget, I put my take home dollars in black and white. His response was, “I am uncomfortable with this.” However, it was not because he wants/needs/feels he has to make more money. He actually took a $200,000 cut in pay to move to a job he loves. He was uncomfortable because of his generous nature, and wanted to contribute as much as I. I explained that I saw it as one big pot of money regardless of who contributed what. But I also said that there are ways he contributes non-financially that more than show his generosity. He now tells people, with a big mischievous grin, that he has a Sugar Mama.

Urban Panthers last blog post..I thought I was perfect

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